We all have been or will be confronted by something that will, in some way, change the rest of our lives. It is something that will always be in the back of our minds. We may forget about it from time to time but eventually it will find a way to creep back up and remind us that it really did happen.
The initial shock can leave us in a state of confusion, disbelief, anger, shame, and/or sadness. These emotions, in turn, give way to a flood of questions. Why me? Why do I have to go through this?
Sometimes these emotions and questions leave us feeling lonely. We convince ourselves that no one else could possibly understand what we are going through or we convince ourselves that we will be blamed or judged by others. These thoughts are what prevent us from reaching out.
What is interesting in these situations is that we become so self-centered. We seem to forget that we are one person in a world full of people. We all go through something. It may not be the exact same something but it is an experience the bonds us together. We all know what it is like to experience the initial shock and accompanying emotions of confusion, disbelief, anger, shame, and sadness.
To state it simply…we all know or will know what it is like to feel like our world has been turned upside down.
With that said, I am here to say it. We can do this. We really can.
We are not alone. There are people who want to support us through the something that we are confronted with. As a therapist, I have learned that loneliness is one of the biggest fears that people carry around. No one wants to find themselves stuck in a situation that leaves them feeling isolated.
Do not be afraid to reach out. There are people who want to help. Reach out to a local therapist, family member, or friend.
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