I work a lot with couples. I’m guessing this has to do with being a marriage and family therapist! Often in the course of therapy with a couple, I have heard someone say that their primary love language is (fill in the blank) (referring to Chapman’s 1995 book, The five love languages: How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate). The statement is then Read more…
I will forever be grateful to my parents. They provided me with a model of what it really means to stick by your partner’s side…through thick and thin. I think that our romantic culture does us a disservice sometimes. There is this message floating around that it’s okay to abandon ship when things get tough. Mostly because some of us Read more…
Writing posts for Collective Inquiry is such an interesting experience for me. Sometimes I struggle to think of what I will write for the week, sometimes I wake up inspired and eager to write (like Monday morning), sometimes I write a post and don’t think much about it afterward, and then sometimes I write a post and it remains lingering Read more…
Change doesn’t happen because of you, it happens through you. In the helping profession, it can be easy to get swept in the idea that who you want to change is the people you work with. Because you love what you do, you work tirelessly; giving time and emotion. Unfortunately, self-care, reflection, and your own growth can take a back Read more…
A group of colleagues and I met recently to talk about what it means to be “who you are”. One part of the discussion focused on how we develop our sense of self. In particular, we looked at the development of self similar to a developing story line. So much of our lives are centered around storytelling, even how we Read more…
