“I think everything in life is art. What you do, how you dress, the way you love someone and how you talk. Your smile and your personality. What you believe in and all your dreams. The way you drink your tea, how you decorate your home, or party. Your grocery list, the food you make, how your writing looks, and Read more…
Pictures. Paintings. Music. What do these words have in common? Each object or concept is one where every one walks away with a unique meaning. Most people would agree to this statement and respect another person’s right to interpretation. Now, let’s shift this concept over to relational therapy (couples and families). In my work with couples, I may ask each Read more…
“I’ve been thinking about this whole being happy thing, and I feel like people get lost when they think of happiness as a destination. We’re always thinking that someday we’ll be happy; we’ll get that car or that job or that person in our lives that’ll fix everything. But happiness is a mood, and it’s a condition, not a destination. It’s like Read more…
Sometimes we limit our life’s choices to two paths or only two answers; one that may feel “right” and the other may feel “wrong.” Which job do I take? Which school do I go to? We start to lend pros and cons to each side and may find ourselves favoring one thing over the other. The risk in categorizing each Read more…
Some people picture therapy as largely consisting of talking and then being asked, “How do you feel about that?” Before becoming a therapist, I used to laugh along with those people and think it was a myth. Surely, there was a lot more to therapy. Turns out, I would be asking that question, not just once, but many times. It Read more…
